People spend hours daily on messengers, swimming in a kiddie pool of empty words. If you call them into the salty water, they refuse to go; those used to being, having no real thing can't see Wisdom as "good" for them, She is no "fun". Except they "like" you for a plastic or any other blind selfish reason, they won't even try to pretend they like Her too. If they're interested in having "you", they're going to make some effort to think a few words to please your ego and obviously you can tell right away their source is still the pool.